A theology of the Mormon church that is disturbing

So I don’t know how many of you guys remember being taught this. That in the previous life that we chose our families and the parents we will have and we chose what struggles that we will face. I find that really disturbing. Why the hell would I chose the family that I have . I am in a toxic family. Also why ? How is it okay ? Like I’m thinking that there are kids that I know have it worse than me. No one would even think to say yes you know what I’ll definitely be born into those parents that will probably abuse so that way I can return to god. What kinda of funk up teaching is that!! Knowing what things I had to deal with that gave me mental health issues and gave me trauma. If I knew that is something I had to deal with that when I was born why would I even say yes to that. It just so disgusting what the Mormon church teachings are. I left many years ago and I’m glad I did. Sometimes I think about it and I realize that wow I actually believe that and thought it was okay.