35M - Strict Dom for subs looking for accountability

NSFWLooking for Sub

tldr: I am an experienced Dom based out of the UK looking for a regular sub to play with. Specifically I am looking for subs into power exchange and looking for someone to hold them accountable. I am looking for fit/sim/muscular subs to play with who are driven but need someone to hold them accountable and help them reach their goals.

About Me:

I am a 35 year old highly educated (PhD in STEM) working professional living in London. I have ~15 years of experience in BDSM both online and IRL. Physically, I am bald with a beard and am fit with a dad bod (I lift and workout but also love food). I have a thick uncut cock with a prince albert. I do not show much but love to be verbal.

I am into edging, cbt, chastity, bondage, and estim. I am also interested in the control and power play aspects of BDSM; Controlling orgasms, body hair, picking out clothes, and exerting control. Specifically I am looking for subs who are driven and have a goal they are working towards, but need someone to hold them accountable and help them reach their goals. Boys who understand that the role of a Dom is not only to use them, but build them up and push them to be their best self.

About You:

Your interests align with Mine and you are looking for control and a power dynamic. Ideally you are slim/fit/muscular and looking to really lock in. I love men that are naturally dominant in their day to day life - Those that hold positions of power at work and that most people would be surprised want to be a submissive in the bedroom. I have no hang-ups on location or age but we will have to see if our schedules and timezones are compatible. At your core, you should have a strong desire to have yourself be completely and totally dominated - at My will physically and mentally.

As previously mentioned, I want you to have a goal you are working towards that you need help reaching. That can be workout goals or other things in your personal life. Being online play, you need to have a baseline level of motivation and drive to make this work. I am here to hold you accountable and make sure you make a plan and stick to it. Orgasm-control, chastity, pleasure, and pain will be used as motivating factors to keep you on track as well as daily check ins. While I will help you make a plan and stick to it at the end of the day you need to be willing to commit and have the drive to follow thru.

How This Will Work:

To begin all play will be online. Play will be either asynchronous (via message exchange) or live on-cam depending on schedules and availability. If you are in and/or around London I am happy to play in person, but that will take built up time and trust.

Limits:

I am not interested in fin play, anything involving scat, feminization, and anything illegal. Other limits and terms will be discussed on an ad hoc basis.

How to Get in Contact:

If this post has caught your attention and you meet what I am looking for above message Me on reddit with the following information: 1) age 2) location and 3) experience as a sub. Be prepared to send a photo relatively soon. Showing face is a huge plus.

-Sir J

Posted Jul 5, 2026, 8:57 PM UTC

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