The lead up to the breakup was so bizarre. She started ghosting me and being cold because I didn’t feel comfortable giving her the keys to my apartment yet, despite her not being comfortable doing the same in return??

We weren’t dating for that long, just a few months. But we spent a lot of time together at first and genuinely had so many good moments and no fights, arguments, etc.

Towards the end I spent over 20 hours over a span of a few days helping her clean her apartment since she had friends coming that would stay at her place that weekend. During the morning as I was exhausted she asked if she could have the keys to my apartment and I wasn’t able to really give her an answer because I needed the key. I was gonna go to work and she would be at work when I got back so I didn’t want to risk not leaving my door locked and also I didn’t feel like a few months was long enough to trust someone with the keys to my place. I didn’t know where the spare was at the time. It wasn’t even that long of a discussion and she seemed fine with at the time but that weekend she just ghosted me and stayed with someone else who she never told me who it was. She came back on Sunday and we embraced each other and I didn’t ask any questions because I was just happy to have her back.

The relationship ended a week or two later. She did some weird things towards the end too that upset me. She took my pet snake to her car without asking to take pics of him on her steering wheel. I got really upset and yelled and said “DONT TAKE HIM OUT LIKE THAT!”, but I apologized sincerely to her for raising my voice. I would have expected her to understand though why I got mad at this haha. Then we had a conversation about communication and she brought up the key thing and I flipped it on her and asked her if she would have felt comfortable giving me the keys to her place and she said no. Which was so confusing considering how she could have expected me to do that when she wasn’t comfortable in it being mutual??

I was the one that sent the breakup text though but I knew at that point she had already checked out. She had gone another half week of ghosting me and I knew she was just waiting for me to end it. I just don’t understand how something like that can completely derail a relationship. It all just seems like a convenient excuse on her end to see other people but I don’t know if it’s fair for me to assume that.