I am scared to share this but I need someone to vent to so I was born in a family where my father is very controlling and angry all the time and my mother is weak he controls everything (what we watch , who we friends , if we can go out or not everything) and made us sacrifice a lot of chances and suffer a lot because he wants to act like a martyr and when we try to refuse or stand up for our selfes he turns our life into a hell no one believes us because he is so nice with other people he doesn't enjoy life and never took us trips like I've never seen the sea or went somewhere nice because he doesn't like that although we're good finincially and he's generous and he gave his relatives money to go trips long story short he desrespects us a lot even in public and treats us in a very hurtful way and always calls us failaires and disapointment to him I just got called hopeless now with all the drama and shouting and slamming doors and I am tired now it's increasing because we are old and not married yet and I am not stable so I won't start a family or have kids although I am like any woman deep down I want a normal life but I am too screwed for that and it hurts me too but I don't want to be a bad mother anyways now me and my sister got a chance to travel to another country but my sister is so scared to leave this hell because we are kinda old to start a life specially because we never been independant he done everything for us but in a mean controlling way and I think that we maybe can learn from scratch and it's better to live with dignity and try a different kind of suffer I know moving abroad isn't easy but staying is killing me she says that I am delusional and we won't be happy there what should we do ? do you think it's hard for us two to manage living abroad when we have mental issues and no experience in life? we are in our early thirties and I am scared for her she's more messed up than me and starting to act like him and I want to save her I could go alone but I live for her we only got each other in this world

homemade seizure salad in the pic

He ruined my life should I leave or I am too old now?