Anyone else has a troubling preference for unavailable people?

Everyone says “you deserve better” because LO is unavailable and will never choose me. However, it is also the unavailability that is attractive to me. So when people say that they mean: “I think you deserve what i consider best for you, that‘s actually what you feel like is the worst, but whatever”. It just feels so much better to me to be in love with someone unavailable than to have one date with someone available, straightforward and desperate, which apparently i find incredibly boring and unbearable. To the point i am thinking that it is some kind of “fetish” that i cannot get over anymore. Does anyone feel the same? the only one here i had a conversation with who felt the exact same of course ghosted me with a lame excuse.