What is your five year old child like?

Hi! I am new I’ve been posting and I have been getting some nice responses mostly so I am here again please bear with me because English isn’t my first language. I just want to know what your five year olds are like. I know every kid is different but like in general. I’m just starting to get nervous about my son he is a great little kid he is kind and nice and when I take him to park he always finds friends at school he has friends but sometimes they argue and he will say mean things but he instantly regrets it/ with my husband and I he can be rude and talk back it is driving me insane. For example he was bouncing a ball and I asked him to stop or I would take it away and he said well then I’ll just hide it so you can’t take it. I would not say “everything is a fight” because he cleans up toys he loves to help around the house and clean up after himself but I think it’s more when he feels forced to do something he gets very angry he will say things like you are the wkrst mommy ever I don’t want you in my family. For example last night my husband was trying to tell him to stop jumping on the bed he told him twice and he didn’t listen my son hit my husband! Absolutely unacceptable in my opinion and at 5 he should not be doing this any longer. However right afterwards he was crying and saying he felt bad for what he did to daddy and they cuddled and all was fine it’s like he just cannot control himself. But when we are at peoples houses or our somewhere he always gets complimented on his behavior it’s like once he is comfortable somewhere he changes. I posted before that I am Dominican and in my culture it is popular to hit our children. We do not want to do that to him. Are your children similar? He is just so hard headed and feisty he is exhausting really