AITA for getting mad that my boyfriend (M21) didn't budget for my milestone birthday, even though he works and has a full income?

**I (F20) just had an argument with my boyfriend and would like some perspective.**

**For some background, I am a university student and I don’t have a lot of money. He is already in the workforce, so he makes a full income and has much more financial flexibility than I do. I am incredibly grateful for the gifts he has given me in the past. We have a history of giving eachother pretty “expensive” gifts even as teenagers. I have always matched that energy and given him expensive gifts. Because my funds are low, I usually spend about 50€ to 100€ less than he does, but I have to carefully budget and plan ahead for at least two months before his birthday, Christmas, or our anniversary just to afford it. Last week was his birthday, and I spent almost 200€ on a gift for him.**

**The issue is that he has a major pattern of being financially impulsive. He gets his salary every month, but he lives entirely in the present moment and spends it all down to zero, which leaves me covering his basic day-to-day things for a week or two when he runs out.**

**This year on Valentine's Day, he spent all his monthly money on car parts. They weren't even parts that were necessary at that exact moment—he didn't even put them on the car until weeks later, meaning the purchase could have easily waited. Because he broke himself right before Valentine's Day, he told me he "doesn't believe in the holiday" and promised he'd get me something the next month instead.**

**Now, my 20th birthday is coming up. Because it's a milestone round number, I was expecting something special.**

**A few days ago, he casually asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I asked what his budget was, and he told me 50€. It turns out he did the exact same thing again—he spent his money on other stuff, like buying a gaming console, and completely failed to budget for my birthday.**

**I completely lost it. I didn't get mad because 50€ isn't a lot of money; I got mad because he didn't plan ahead. He knows when my birthday is, yet it never once crossed his mind to put cash aside for a major milestone. It feels like my birthday was an unexpected surprise to him rather than a date that happens on the exact same day every single year.**

**When I tried to explain this to him, it escalated into a massive text wall argument. He completely missed the point and thought I was just being materialistic and angry about the price tag. He did apologise but I don’t think he really understood why I even got mad. He said he would spend his last money on me if he had to.**

**But to me, a partner offering their last cent because they completely failed to budget isn't romantic—it's stressful and thoughtless. And it feels like a permanent loop we won’t get out of.**

**So, Reddit, AITA for being mad about his lack of planning, or am I being unreasonable?**