Anyone else get into ENM with someone who claimed they were experienced just to find out over many years they can't handle excessive NRE without massive repeated infidelities?

If so, what happened, and how did you handle it?

There's more to this, obviously, and I'm far from perfect or guiltless in the whole scheme of things, but I own up really quick in every case. She distorts everything in a self-protecting way, putting words in my mouth and thoughts in my head that aren't actually there, and I'm like, "I'm just desperately asking you to stop."

I hate giving up, and the answers may be obvious, I just hate the situation.

I know that she isn't trying to hurt me or us... I just don't want to give up in a way that gives up a chance.

Ask any clarifying questions you want.