How do I stop thinking about someone sexually that I should not be with?

Hi everyone,

I have been dealing with an issue for a few months now. I was heavily interacting with one of the executives at my work bc I needed his expertise on something (a lot, we spoke multiple times a day). He would always make me laugh and I enjoyed the banter with him. The more I spoke with him, the more this “crush” developed. So much so that I’d get excited when I was given work out of my scope and had the opportunity to speak with him.

At first I thought it was fine, it’s a harmless work crush. I thought if I saw him in person I’d get over it bc he’s not exactly conventionally attractive. I did not get over him, it just sparked more of an attraction to him bc I saw him as more attainable. I should say attainable sexually. I don’t think about a life with him, just sex.

There is almost a 30 year age difference here. He’s married with children, I’m about to be married. I’m also taller than him, just to add to our differences hahaha I don’t directly report to him at all. There couldn’t possibly be more distance put between us.

What steps can I take to stop thinking so perversely about him?? I mean, he pops in my mind when I’m trying to have “me time” and I can’t help but feed into it. I’ve even looked at photos of him to help myself out.

I haven’t spoken to him in probably a month, but I am basically pavloved by the sight of his car in the office parking lot. PLEASE HELP ME! I used to not care about this since my therapist said it was natural to be attracted to the “most fit animal”, but I truly want this thought gone.