Approached this FET differently

Tw: Ivf success

I have my second FET next week. Our first FET was April 2024 was successful and led to our now 18 mo son. Our first FET was on the heels of almost two years of fertility difficulty, multiple pregnancy losses, finally starting Ivf, two retrieval cycles and then a transfer. The first time around the transfer was a big milestone at the end of a long journey where I was really focused/obsessed with controlling EVERYTHING I could when it came to diet/exercise etc for fertility success. we were really careful with mostly everything. This time around, it’s been a much different experience in the lead up - I am so so grateful to be trying again, but I have a toddler and life is a bit more busy and full! I’ve made the decision to keep living life while we prep which means more plans/fun/joy and eating foods that might not be the most “healthy” - ie it’s summer and I’m enjoying myself! I generally eat a balanced diet and exercise daily but as we approach transfer I’m starting to have a bit of “oh shit did I mess this up” thoughts because I haven’t been as strict with lifestyle stuff as I was the first time around. I don’t drink so it’s not like I’ve been guzzling tequila or anything lol but have definitely been enjoying my nightly sweet treats or eating out a bit more. Would just love to be talked down a bit…I keep telling myself people get pregnant all the time and perhaps the “control” I think I have isn’t quite as significant as I thought??