My 13 month old doesn’t want to leave nanny’s/aunties house

How are these tiny humans so bloody strong? The girl will not bend when trying to put her in her car seat 😂

Recently my 13 month old has been kicking off every time she has to leave nanny’s or aunties house.

It used to be me she didn’t want to come to and I’d feel so disheartened by it and that I’d be judged by the in-laws because of it but I’ve come to understand that I’m the boring one she spends all day every day with and it’s not that she hates me (I think anyway lol), especially because she would be sooo happy to see daddy when we’d both go to pick her up.

I started getting my partner to do pick ups instead but now she doesn’t want to leave with either of us (which secretly makes me feel better) 😂

I feel so blessed that we have such an amazing village around us and she is happy and feels safe when we do have to leave her these people but it’s just becoming a nightmare and now daddy is starting to feel down about it too.

Does anyone have any tips on how to make leaving easier?