aiw for saying I am being harassed at a day program even though I'm the "bully"
So, I'm 18 years old, and I joined a day program for adults. I was dating a guy named Daniel, who is 21. Daniel and I were dating, but a bunch of stuff went down where he was constantly calling and texting me, accusing me of cheating. I ended up breaking up with him.
Now Daniel is saying that he only dated me for fun and that he fake-dated me. The day after I broke up with him, I got repeatedly called and bombarded with text messages and phone calls from a group chat. I did not feel safe answering it, but I was repeatedly being called and texted. I just turned off my phone and blocked everyone because I didn't feel safe.
There were two girls, who I'm going to call Holly and Willow. I think they're both around 20. They seemed to be the two ringleaders. There was also another person named Mary, who is around 25. I'm not sure exactly how old any of them are.
I really needed to know what was going on with the group chat because I wanted to document everything in case I had to file a restraining order against Daniel because he was showing a lot of stalker-like behaviors. There was also broken glass on my driveway, and I don't know where it came from.
I ended up texting Mary, "Who is this?" She then accused me of bullying Holly and Willow. I didn't even know who the two girls were at first.
This is the situation: I was making bracelets for everyone at the program and walking around to see who wanted one. I asked Holly and Willow if they wanted bracelets, and they completely ignored me, so I just walked away and brushed it off.
Later, Willow ran up to me asking how I made them because she wanted to sell bracelets. I told her to let me finish what I was doing because I was making a bracelet for someone else. After that, I showed her how to do it, even though I didn't really want to.
She was laughing, and when I walked back over, I did give them a few side-eyes because they were being loud, whispering, and laughing. I didn't have to do that, and I will admit that I should not have been giving them side-eyes. That was rude, and I am willing to apologize for it.
During the text conversation, Mary was cussing me out and saying that I was lying about not knowing about the whole bullying issue with Willow. The truth is that I didn't even know it was a big deal because, at the time, it didn't seem like one.
Meanwhile, Daniel was telling everyone that he fake-dated me and was being overall very hostile. He was saying that they didn't do anything to me and that I was the one bullying them.
Eventually, I got ahold of Willow or maybe it was Holly, I don't remember which one. I told her, "Hey, I just need to know about the group chat."
She got mad that I didn't join the group chat or group call. I explained that I didn't feel safe. She then told me that I was 18 and didn't know anything.
She started listing all the different ways I supposedly bullied her. I told her, "I did not bully you. I have been nice to you. I have been nice to everyone at the program."
She then claimed that I fake-dated Daniel. At that point, I was confused because all I had wanted to do was make bracelets with everyone.
I told her that I would file a police report if I had to. She became very rude and irate. She told me she was 20 years old and then brought up that her father had passed away, saying that I needed to stay out of her way because she was in a bad mood.
I told her that I was sorry her father had passed away, but that it didn't give her an excuse to accuse me of bullying when I never bullied her. I also told her that I was going to report her to the program.
She got really upset and said she was going to report me too. Then she started making fun of my makeup and saying it looked messy. I told her I didn't care.
She also told me that I walk around acting like I'm better than everyone else and admitted that she was trying to get me kicked out of the program.
I haven't reported any of them yet, but I'm going to. I have the reporting slip in my hand, and I'm honestly really scared because I don't want to be kicked out of this program. I really need it.
So, am I wrong for reporting them?
Posted Jul 6, 2026, 1:27 PM UTC