Can I meet with a therapist to discuss social anxiety without doing CBT or receiving advice on how to make friends?

Whenever I’ve done therapy related to initiating friendship struggles, they usually just have me do CBT and advise me to expose myself to gradually more anxiety provoking situations or give obvious advice like “join clubs or volunteer to meet new people, ask people how their day is going, ask them what they like to do”. Honestly I don’t think it really works for me because the goal is just to reduce anxiety but it can’t actually teach someone how to make friends. I’ve already taken advantage of social opportunities like clubs and jobs and forced myself to push through moments of awkwardness to introduce myself to new people first. But I still can’t make friends past casual acquaintances who I talk to once in a while. This is where I think social anxiety therapy doesn’t really help because they don’t fully know me and they know very little about the people around me.

I would just rather talk with someone about the feeling of being lonely and struggling to make friends when it seems like everyone else can. Most social advice just seems quite generic and obvious and doesn’t really help me so I feel like I don’t really get to discuss what I want to in therapy.

Posted Jul 6, 2026, 9:00 PM UTC

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