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brorouwu

Flirting Fears

Guys PLEASE do not downvote, if you have an opinion or feel like I'm reassurance seeking, then tell me in the comments. Downvotes make me unnecessarily anxious because I don't know what they mean.

So for a moment there I thought my boyfriend had cheated on me because there was a misunderstanding. I went on break, and on my break there was a guy who I used to have false-attraction OCD about. He is very nice but I don't find him very attractive, but during this situation my OCD latched onto him and thought about him as what if he was a rebound if things go bad with my boyfriend... and in the next few moments he was trying to plug in his charger but the outlet was behind me, so I offered to plug it in but then realized there was a charger behind him so I pointed it out.

I spoke to him maybe one other time but that was it then we just sat there silently because I didn't want to talk to him.

But my OCD is making me go crazy over this. Because I was thinking about a rebound or flirting or the potential to date, I feel as if I've somehow flirted with him by being nice.

I just can't even make much sense of it

But it's like...

If I had an angry thought in my head and was mean to someone because of it, that would be me being mean

If I had a thought of hypothetical scenarios of dating while talking to someone, wouldn't that mean I was flirting?

It's like. I feel like I was thinking to be nice for the possibility but I don't know. I just am so stressed and confused and feel so guilty because I feel like I really did flirt with him

Posted Jul 6, 2026, 9:02 PM UTC

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