Got the lush 4 and idk if I’m using it right

So, I’ve had toys before, the only insert able one a rabbit. I like the rabbit because I can fuck myself with it and also have clit stim and it works really fucking well. I wanted to get the lush 4 bc I want ppl to control it long distance.

I’ve never really been able to find my g spot. I feel like a man 😭 I like can feel the area people are talking about I think? The fleshy wall? But it doesn’t feel good to finger it really, and so this toy isn’t much different. It feels better than fingers, but I don’t think it’s feeling as good as it’s supposed to nor giving me orgasms.

Im asking if anyone’s gone through the same and if so how do you find your g spot and use toys. I dont wanna upset my online partner bc the toy they bought doesnt work on me :(