M34 [M4F] #UK Probably the only legit post lol

Hi

 

Forewarning might be a bit long but it’s a genuinely thought out and serious post, so hopefully worth your read.

 

What brought me here: I’ve been in the lifestyle for some time and have a good amount of experience in many things but I’m always keen to grow it it. After failed 3 year LTR  / D’s I took some time to reflect on who I am and what I want and how to avoid what I missed there. As well as get back into the scene more again and connect with more kinksters (who have helped massively!) and I’ve learned a lot on what I want.

About me:  I’m a bubbly somewhat eccentric caring guy. I’m very understanding and open minded. I try not to judge and believe a differing opinion doesn’t define a whole person, nor does one negative trait and disagreeing on a topic isn’t the end of the world! You just have to accept it and remember, people are complex beings capable of growth and change if you let them and allow them the environment and support to do so. I’d rather you felt you could express a desire or thought without fear of the response. Instead of judging, I’ll usually say. Okay, let’s explore that thought and want to talk about it to see why. I’ve got a deranged sense of humor though and so overall I’m the weird, dependable helpful friend people call out for wild times or good advice it seems.

Although I can come off as a big “mans man” I’m also a nerdy teddy bear inside. I will adore and spoil the crap out of you by day and fuck your shit up in bed.

Bedroom wise I’m naturally dominant, very much a throw you about and fold you up type but overall I’m very flexible. I like primal, free use anything with a power dynamic really. I have a bit of a sadist side. I’ve experimented and done a lot and not many of my kinks are a must. I am a raging hedonist and have a corruption / teaching kink though. I love making people feel comfortable enough to be as wild as they dream and helping them experiment in things they haven’t tried, even weird RPs lol. Most of my experience has come from this side of me indulging others. If they like it I like it, though I have my own desires don’t worry. I’ve been a hot husband for a Cuckquean, all the way to being a switching for a soft dom mommy that wanted me to suckle her.

What I haven’t done but interested to try is. TPE, Slave play. I own my own home and have the income to have a tradwife dynamic and that is also interesting to me.

 

What I’m looking for.

I’m open looks wise, I don’t really have a type and think all people are beautiful in their own ways. There is limits to that of course but there is really no point me defining it is all. I priorities personality and getting along much more. I value trust massively so someone else who does (okay who doesn’t) in the sense I will always be open and honest with you so do the same to me, even if I look like crap tell me. I value good communication. Someone that can match my hedonism and libido and has a very curious mind.

I want to build a trusting dynamic, where you know I won’t judge you and you know you could have stray naughty thoughts and be able to casually turn to me and ask. Can I sit on a cake and sit on your face? Without fear knowing I’d go lol why not when? I want someone who shares that mind set of openness and likes trying new things in life just because why not it could be fun and you’ve gotta go to know. I think having met a few a service / pleasure subs that would be ideal fit, in that we’d feed into each other in a cycle. A good ideally dark sense of humor but outside of that as long as you’re happy having differing interests so am I but great if we do.

My love language is touch, In that I love being able to come up to my partner and grope them and they see the love in it. To be able to stuff my head up your skirt before you leave, give you a teasing lick, tell you how good it is and then set you off. Just because I’m obsessed with you. If that kind of passion is your thing then I am to.

 

What I don’t want.

·         A toxic / selfish sub – I hadn’t realized that was a possibility until my last. You can be a good sub but still toxic. Dom aftercare is a thing and so is Dom fatigue.

·         Un-supportive sub – Similar to above, a sub should still be caring for their Dom. They can’t be at full performance 24/7. It’s not brat play to see they’re tired and throw a tantrum because they want to go to sleep, its toxic. I can be drunk or asleep and you can ride me and do sleep / intox play, that’s fine. Getting angry at or emotionally blackmailing me because I won’t rough fuck you when you demand it because I’m drunk say. Toxic / selfish.

·         Unstable – We all have our issues and if anyone is willing to support you through them it’s me. I’m happy to even because I love helping. However if you’re a literally unhinged and think I will fix you please don’t. I can take bad days but don’t leave me wondering what every day will be like.

 

Welcome to the mines, if you made it this far thank you for reading it. Hopefully you’ll see I’m a genuine good guy, not another douche looking for wild sex and in fact I can provide some reference examples from those around me who have said they’re willing to share their good words….

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