AIO or is this genuinely normal ?

So my boyfriend and I have recently decided to “give things another go” after pretty much breaking up last week. (Im late 20s, he’s late 30s)
We live together, been together 3 years, last week we were gonna break it off due to constant arguments and differences in what we want out of life but decided to give it a go.
So, after him basically saying he doesn’t want me to go and loves me etc, since “making up” he acts like nothing ever happened…
We’re regularly intimate but always seems to be on his terms. He says he’s “just not as affectionate as me”, but tbh we used to be very affectionate.
As times gone on, we hardly kiss or have a cuddle… if I want a cuddle I literally have to ask him.. feels like it’s just become about sex? It’s not like he’s not attracted to me anymore, I know he is, it’s just the actual normal relationship affection he makes out is “just not him”
When I’ve come onto him he sort of pushes me away, which feels horrible because at other times he’s complained he’s only ever the one who tries (but being a female and being constantly rejected kinda makes you take a step back).
So today I’ve tried to give him a cuddle when I got in from work after we were having a laugh, he just said “can you get off me”.
I tried bringing it up later basically saying it doesn’t feel nice always being rejected and never having any affection from him, unless it’s on his terms.
He kinda went 0-100, says I can just “never be happy” and that I bring him down. I just felt upset coz in my head I don’t feel like what im saying is wrong or that I’m asking for a lot?
His point is that he’s just never going to be as affectionate as me and that I want too much, but tbh most days we don’t even show any affection.. even after sex he pretty much switches off, has some food and then sits on sofa. It’s like an instant switch , no cuddle no kisses, doesn’t even really act like I exist tbh…
AIO , should I have just not brought it up? And AIO is the after sex thing weird? He says it’s “normal” and “all lads are the same” and “any lad that has a cuddle after sex is faking it”… male opinion would be appreciated here please