What do I do?

I don't want to end my marriage but at this point what do I do?

The last week of summer school, Monday, my former student sister tells me that she found my coworkers Facebook and TikTok. I told her not to add her because it's not appropriate.

The next day, Tuesday, it's probably like 6 pm, and my husband, who works at the same school as me in a different grade level, says to me that I'll never guess who sent him a message on Facebook. I ask who and he says the former student sister name . I say I told that girl not be adding adults or to even be on Facebook without her mother knowledge or consent. Obviously she ignored me and for that he needs to block her and be done. He said okay and that was the end of that conversation.

Thursday, I needed his phone for something and then out of nowhere I see a Facebook messenger notification from the student. I open the notification and they, the student and my husband, have been messaging back and forth. It's stupid harmless messages. She is telling him all her lies and home drama. And he is responding back, telling her what he is doing and what I am doing. Nothing inappropriate but just the ideaof them talking .

I put the phone down and called him to the room. I told him to block her as this could be very dangerous situation that could ruin both of our lives. He said okay again and I trusted that the messages were done.

Tuesday 7/7, it is 10 pm. We are about to go to bed. We just had a scare about his health because he hasn't been taken his insulin properly since the summer started so now he is showing DKA signs(type 2 daibetes). So at first I was mad because it's a constant cycle of him not taking care of himself and expecting me to step up and take care of him. We made up and we just made a plan to do better. So he gets up to go to the bathroom and he leaves his phone. I hear a buzz and think it my phone, but it's his. I look and again I see a Facebook messenger notification from the student. He comes out of the bathroom. Im clearly in shock and cut to my core and I don't say anything. He says let's go to bed. I tell him i need a few minutes. A few minutes turns to 2 am and I can't sleep.

I go into our bedroom and basically confront him. I tell him that he doesn't respect me enough to listen to me and be honest with me. My trust is complete broken. I try to walk away because I'm crying and he says so you just don't wanna talk. I tell him that I always do the talking and how about you talk. So he gives me sorry excuses saying he is hard headed, he should have listened to me, he doesn't want to fight over the summer, he loves me, he wants to be married and have kids. He tells me that he blocked her and won't do it again and that he was being hard headed and should have listened to me. I said you are 32 and she is 10. You can't say you were being hard headed.

I told him I needed space. We are sleeping in separate bedrooms. My doesn't have a bed so I'm sleeping on blankets and jackets and pillows.

I'm sorry to bug you with all this. I really don't have anyone else but you to talk to. I don't want to leave him. I just want him to be better. Be the man I know he can be.