my friend is weirdly obsessed with sleeping with me

I (F20) met this guy (M23) a few months back, late december to early january. i had met him out at a show, or mosh to specify, and got his instagram via my friend because i was too shy at the time. since then, ive gained more confidence in myself to do things of that nature on my own. Either way, i had told him from the beginning i really only wanted to be friends and maybe in time, a few years, id be down to try for a relationship but that at the time i was not open to it regardless.

around that time i started talking to a guy i knew from highschool who had dated my ex-friend. let me clarify, they *dated* but they weren’t in a **relationship.** i gave him the same spiel of not wanting a relationship or just friends with benefits, since it still applied to him as well. it wasnt just for mosh guy;it was just how i felt generally. after about a month or so, me and him started getting closer and toyed with the idea of being in a relationship but he still wanted to go at my pace. without getting too deep into me and this guy, i had gotten sick for about two weeks and he showed little care despite being wonderful up until then. So i stopped talking to him because i felt as if he didnt really care.

During those few months MG and i were doing great as friends but once i stopped talking to that guy, MG started seeing it as a chance to try to turn the dynamic between us romantic. While i can understand that he probably understood me and that guy having considered a relationship as me being open to one now, he still didnt ask me about it. just assumed.

MG started wanting to hang out more and even invited me to his house, which at the time i took as being friendly and just how he was as a person. The dat he invited me to his house, he had also invited some friends and told me last second. Im not very socially equipped in group settings, but i didnt mind, just felt a bit more awkward than i wanted to.

after that i was integrated into the friend group and we hung out a LOT and even added several others to the group, but it was clear that there was a specific set of people in the group that mainly hung out. Me, MG, Connor (MG’s bff), Bex, and more recently Leo. *(these are not their real names!!)*

to give it a run down, MG slept with Bex and she regretted it and asked him to never bring it up but he did on several occasions with me before i ever knew her and after. at the time, i didnt realize the pattern, nor did i know she asked him to not bring it up. Connor likes Bex. Leo has hungout with all of us only 2-4 times.

to shorten it quite a bit, the friend group is very messy and ive only been in it about maybe a month.

when me and MG were still really good friends, at least i thought we were, i had confided in him that i had slept with someone but i wouldnt be doing it with anyone else and reiterated that sleeping with that person was a first and that i dont usually do things like that out of a relationship and that specific guy would be the first and last as far as i was concerned. Since then, MG has made advances towards me, which ultimately just pushed me further from him and more into new guys arms.

recently, MG yelled at me. Connor had said something about being exiled from his last friend group for drama and MG got **angry.** He insisted drama wasnt a good reason and i calmly explained that some people would just rather avoid it like drinking or partying but everyone is different. He continued yelling and raising his voice at me so i shut down. i did not feel safe at that moment and texted multiple people to keep track of my location that was being shared with them just in case. Especially since at the time, i was in a car with three guys who i considered friends, but you never know.

MG called me out for isolating myself from him a few days ago, said i was a bad friend and he couldnt have me in his inner circle then blocked me. since the message was in the group chat, i responded and had Connor relay the message. MG ended up unblocking me to talk about it more privately.

I found out, because of this mess, that he had been telling Bex that i just sleep around from day one because i was “making him wait” despite that NOT being the conversation we had nor do i sleep around.

i also found out through Leo that MG assumed i had a thing for Leo despite me telling ALL of them i had a thing for the new guy ive been talking to. While i do suspect Leo may have some sort of attraction to me, i doubt its anything as bad as MG. Id closely relate it to Bex, they simply find me attractive and nice and thats it.

MG tellss Leo he assumed Leo had feelings for me and that i was trying to get with Leo so he felt upset and possessive and jealous. He then proceedes to tell Leo he still wants to sleep with me and that its all a game and some time and distance from him will make me want him again all the while telling me how he’s down bad for me separately.

Im cutting MG and Connor off but giving Leo some grace as he doesnt know my boundaries yet since i dont know him as well. And Bex and i are now better friends than before.

TL;DR my (ex) friend has been trying to sleep with me and views it as a game, this has caused our friend group to fall apart.