It is Daddy issues!

I have been watching Redemption on Netflix and have realised I have a severe crush on Themba Ndaba aka Simon! Like it’s severe! If I had to pin it down a lot of it is how he speaks, looks and his energy. I didn’t feel the same when he was Brutus on The Queen (the whole possessive conservative staunch traditional Zulu man archetype is a turn off for me although he bodied the role). I am convinced that his real life personality is more like Simon than Brutus as when I watched clips of shows he did back in the day when he was a presenter his personality leaned more towards a “Simon”. Of course both these mediums require performance and I am obviously aware of the projection from the viewer that results in that. Anyway he is 30 something years older than me. Appreciating much older men is always dismissed as Daddy issues but I also think everyone’s taste is different and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When have you found that what you’re into is considered a psychologically informed defect or trauma by others (or yourself) and how did you reconcile that.