I don't care about other peoples dating/romance/sex life not in real life nor media but it feels like it's shoehorned in my face everywhere I go to disproportionate levels from anything else.

No I am not asexual or aromantic, though I do have a sexual dysfunction. It's just a topic that I care about it for my own life. And even then, I dunno, I was really thrilled about getting it as a teenager but calmed down now I finally have it as an adult. It's like having enough water, I'm not thinking about water all day. You doing your business at the toilet is also your business, your dating/romance life is your dating/romance life. You don't have to act like it doesn't exist or can't be mentioned, and you can share being happy about it, but I am not interested in the topic for the sake of the topic, shoehorning it into places at a disproportionate level from other topics. IThere are times I do get uncomfortable in a way that's not very much present with other topics if it's in certain ways. I don't mean when it's inappropriate I just mean I have some personal baggage they don't know of but I think that's beside the point.

I can care about that of others insofar that I know my friends are happy or to meet the people they value in general. But it seems a lot of society is obsessed with sharing things about dating/sex under the right circumstances. I may also are about deeper psychology around it, but that's about it. People talk about the opposite sex or whatever gender they're into, they talk about gossip regarding sex/romance ,etc. Even at the workplace. I just don't care.

I don't care about it in media/art either unless there's some kind of other theme expressed. But people seem to obsessed with shipping. Every damn pop song has to be a love song. romance is shoehorned into all kinds of stories, in some its painted as the only important relationship a human can have besides family (making friends this weird third place), so are there unnecessary sex scenes, tons of clear fanservice (whether visual or emotional) that is completely incoherent from the rest of the story, etc. I just don't get it. Even as a pure wish fullfilment fantasy, I don't get it, but at least those stay within their lane instead of being positioned as some kind of great story. I also don't get the constant obsession to take something unrelated and bring romance/sex back into it again either. Don't get me wrong. I talk about the stuff pretty openly (to an appropriate level in an appropriate context ofcourse), but in so far that its relevant or interesting or just a funny joke.

My heart goes out to sex repulsed aromantic asexuals. In fact, there have been specific moments a sort of existential repulsion and a physical repulsion comes in for me, but it's 99% of the time not an issue, and it's not like I lack attraction or a libido and its not like I don't pursue it.

The irony of this all is that I am queer. There's often this criticism against various forms of queer people that its ''shoved in their faces''. However, straight stuff is actually shoved in our faces everywhere, all the time.