dealing with flatline. intimacy advice wanted

so dday was june 28th, caught everything he had been hiding from me and it was extensive.

multiple fake accounts on every social platform purely for porn.

lying to me for months straight to my face.

for the first few days after dday we had sex and i was hysterical bonding like crazy. now, he has 0 interest in sex, in touching me, he only sometimes gets morning wood now, and his libido is just gone. it’s killing me. it makes me feel so ugly even when i know it’s part of the process.

he didn’t use porn every day it was maybe 1-2 times a week and not multiple sessions. even with this fact, i’m scared his libido will take months to come back. and even when it does, the sex won’t be the same because he’s going to feel anxious about trying to perform because he knows i’ll be overthinking about how hard he can get.

i just want to know what to expect. he says he will try and be more affectionate with me but i just miss the intimacy. what other ways can be build intimacy? i’m not talking about holding hands or hugging because we already do that. i’m talking about intimacy close in equality to the intimacy of sex. i just want to feel close to him again and to feel desired…

i just hate this. i’m so scared it’s gonna last months. i’m going through emotional turmoil rn and im not getting the verbal reassurance i need or the physical reassurance i need to feel loved and desired and wanted . i just feel helpless.