AITJ for not doing my chores on time
I 19f and my mother 42f keep having issues with regards to my doing chores, specifically the timing. I struggle to wake up early/ dont want to wake up early to clean. I have no issues whatsoever with doing chores.However, the way my mother frames it makes it seem like i don't want to at all.
My mother wants me to be up preferably before everyone else so that I can clean without being disturbed and then after I'm done cleaning I can go back to sleep. However everyone is always up early so I end up having to clean with them present even if i wake up the same time as them. I also tend to wake up a little later than everyone else i.e they wake up between 7 and 8. I'll wake up between 9 and 10 and start cleaning so she'll end up just cleaning the house herself while everyone is present. Our house is quite small so I usually take between 1 and 2 hours to clean and she can clean much faster than I can.
Currently we're visiting my grandmother who has a large home. Things are more relaxed this side so I don't really feel pressure to wake up early because everyone generally stays outside the house during the day and I mostly clean the common areas which visibly get dirty and I'll just sweep the bedrooms. I'll only mop them if they're visibly dirty. Today I woke up at 11 and only finished cleaning at 1 because I was mopping and sweeping the whole house. There are 6 adults and 5 children right now and while I was cleaning no one had a problem/said anything to me even on other days . It was my mom who got upset that I started cleaning late.
I know that me cleaning late makes it harder for people to get around in the house but we haven't really had that problem and again no one seems to have a problem, I even asked.
Posted Jul 9, 2026, 7:45 PM UTC