Deciding to have children should be an individual decision not a choice made in partnership

Each person should reach their own conclusion whether or not they want kids THEN if both people independently answer yes you and your partner decide together how many.

Whenever I hear a man say he’s unsure about kids and it’s a decision that should be made in partnership I roll my eyes so hard they get stuck back there. Like the cost of child rearing, you’re putting the decision entirely on the woman, because as a man having kids doesn’t affect your life that much that you have to think about future consequences.