AITA for maybe ruining me and my moms vacation?
fair warning english isnt my first language and im writing this on my phone so sorry in advance for any spelling mistakes
i(15f) am on vacation with my mom(48f) for summer break. we are currently in somalia(our home country) visiting extended family. i thought the plan was we would be there for about half of the break before returning home until i found out we were going to be there for the entire break. my mom had already bought the tickets by then and they were around 11.000 kr. (around 1681 usd) which was more than we can afford to waste, so i didnt voice my discomfort on staying in staying in a country where i hardly spoke the language and knew nobody for six weeks.
when we got here i didnt really do much. i said hello to aunts and uncles and spent some time with my maternal grandmother but that’s about it. it was a whole new env that i wasn’t comfortable in. i dont mean to sound out of touch and privileged i dont want to come off that way at all but i just don’t feel comfortable or safe here. about a week ago i was over at my grandmothers and heard gunshots not far from here that really scared me. im from scandinavia si ive never heard something like that but it really shook me.
i didnt hem and haw the entire time i was here, but my mom could tell i wasnt enjoying myself. i also mentioned the things i would do when i got back home which looking back might have made her think i wanted to leave as quickly as possible.
eventually we talked and i voiced my concerns and i could tell they upset my mom. i didnt like seeing that and i teared up a bit, but that’s about it made my mom mad and she scolded me for crying. we hugged it out and everything but i could tell it still upset her.
today on the phone with my sister she mentioned moving up our return date(we’re supposed to come home on the tenth of august) and she asked what the cheapest option for that was. my sister asked why and she said it’s because of her mothers condition and how she cant be with her in this state because she hates everyone around her(my grandmother has some sort of dementia im not really sure) but im worried my comments stuck with her and that’s why she wants to go home. did i ruin our vacation? and AITA?
Posted Jul 9, 2026, 7:53 PM UTC