asked to give input then told off for giving it?
my boss tagged me into an email thread about a SaaS product we use, which im familiar with. he asked if i had any insights on how to accomplish a thing they asked for.
i spent like 45 minutes to an hour researching it, and found an answer. i wrote two and a half paragraphs in my email - the first two outlining the solution, the final bit a caveat that i havent tested this yet. i did not think it was a big deal.
an hour later he messaged me,
"nice research, but heres some advice: keep it short and sweet.
[block quote of my email]
this is frivolous and unnecessary. no one needs to know what you dont know."
i bit my tongue and said nothing, but then he brought it up on a standup and said, "dont waste any more time getting distracted with random requests like this, its not a priority." i feel pretty shitty, like ive been penalized and now i guess have a target on my back for doing literally what was asked of me.
any of yall have experience with this, where you fulfill whats asked of you and you get yelled at?
Posted Jul 9, 2026, 7:53 PM UTC