The short version: I'm a 30-year-old Owner in North Carolina. Weekends at a country bar, weeknights building AI systems, robotics, and nanosciences. I'm looking for my alpha — my first and primary pet, the one who helps me build, train, and lead a full pack from the ground up. Near free within pet play. I need someone dark enough to match me without flinching.

I'm finalizing a divorce and won't build something new on an incomplete foundation. This starts online only. If that's a dealbreaker, I understand. If you're the right pet, the wait is worth it.



THE OWNER

Quiet, intense, deeply focused. Over a decade of experience in power exchange dynamics with a strong emphasis on training, conditioning, and behavioral shaping. What I'm offering isn't theoretical — I've trained and kept multiple pets and I know how to build a dynamic that's structured, consistent, and deeply fulfilling for both sides.

Physically: 6'3, blue eyes, brown hair. Active body recomposition in progress. Full-body tattoo project underway — four artists, four styles, one coherent piece. It's a project, not decoration.

Walking contradiction: country bar with a cold beer on Saturday, building robotics and AI on Sunday. USCG captain's license. I read hundreds of books a year. I work in IT operations leadership and consulting. I'm building a fully off-grid, automated farm compound — fenced, private, secured. Relevant to you: the property is designed so you can exist freely outdoors without a single concern about being seen. That's by design, not coincidence.

Conservative / libertarian. Firearms, hunting, fishing — permanent, non-negotiable. If that's uncomfortable, we don't fit. If it sounds like home, keep reading.



WHAT THE DYNAMIC LOOKS LIKE

Training and conditioning are central. This isn't "wear ears and a collar on date night." This is a structured, daily, lived dynamic where training is ongoing and behavioral conditioning is real. I use a combination of methods including:

Positive reinforcement for desired behaviors — rewards calibrated to what motivates you specifically. Consistent expectations and routines that become second nature over time. A command system you'll learn and respond to — auditory signals, hand signals, and verbal cues depending on context (home vs. public). The training doesn't stop. It evolves as you grow into the dynamic and as the pack grows around you.

Collars mean something here. A collar from me isn't jewelry. It's earned, it's significant, and it represents a real commitment on both sides. You'll wear it because it means something to both of us, not because it looks cute (though it will).

Leash in public spaces. At kink events and appropriate venues, expect to be leashed. In vanilla public settings, the dynamic is maintained through subtler signals — hand positioning, touch patterns, proximity commands. The dynamic doesn't turn off when we leave the house. It adapts to the environment.

Toys and play. Toys are part of the daily landscape, not special occasion items. Orgasm play, training-integrated rewards, and play that reinforces the dynamic's structure. This is woven into the life, not separate from it.



THE PACK — THIS IS THE IMPORTANT PART

I'm not looking for a single pet. I'm building a pack — and I need my alpha first.

You need to be bisexual. Not curious. Not performative. Genuinely, deeply attracted to women. This pack is fully interconnected — every pet is bonded to every other pet, intimately and emotionally, not just bonded to me. You won't just be my pet. You'll be theirs and they'll be yours. If the idea of curling up with another woman in the pack while I'm occupied doesn't excite you at a core level, this isn't your ad.

Why a pack, not a collection: In a traditional setup, I'm the sole bond for every pet. If I'm working, training, or need space, everyone else is isolated. That's unsustainable and it's not how healthy packs work. In a real pack, the members bond with each other — they play together, groom each other, comfort each other, and maintain the pack's emotional warmth whether the Owner is actively present or not. The alpha sets the tone for that. You set the tone for that.

Your role as alpha:

You're my primary. My first. The pet who helps me evaluate and select every new member of the pack. You don't just need to be compatible with me — new pets need to be compatible with you, and you with them. Genuine mutual attraction, genuine connection.

You set the pack culture. How the pets interact with each other, how they play together, how they support each other — that tone starts with you and radiates outward.

When I'm focused on work or a project, you're the one who keeps the pack together. You're not just a pet — you're the alpha, and the others look to you for warmth, guidance, and structure within the framework I set.

You help with training new pets as they join. You know the routines, the commands, the expectations — and you model them.



WHO I'M LOOKING FOR

White or Asian, 22-28, slim/fit, under 5'7" preferred. Eyes that are pretty in the light and dangerous in the dark. Generally attractive — someone who takes care of themselves and turns heads.

Beyond physical: emotionally empathetic (you bring the warmth I sometimes can't), self-soothing (you can hold yourself together when things are hard), self-motivated, genuinely bisexual (non-negotiable — the pack requires it), and genuinely loving toward the entire pack.

You have to be dark. I need someone who can look at the most intense, raw, unfiltered version of me and not flinch. Not try to soften me. Not try to heal me. Match the energy or keep scrolling.



HEALTH & TESTING

Full STI panel (blood, urine, gyno) required before anything physical. Quarterly testing for the entire pack including me. Vasectomy on my end. This is non-negotiable — it protects you, me, and everyone who joins after you.



THE TIMELINE

Now: online only. Finalizing a divorce. Won't rush something new before the old is legally closed.

What online looks like: daily texts and conversation, weekly video calls, gaming together, remote movie nights, training tasks assigned remotely, video/phone play. The dynamic starts the moment we agree it starts. This isn't pen pals — it's a real relationship at a distance with real structure and real training.

After divorce is finalized: Stage one — neutral destination trip, public, safe, both out of our element. Stage two — you visit the property and meet the dogs (German Shepherd named Maddox, Central Asian Shepherd puppy named Jaeger who will be enormous).



DEALBREAKERS

Closed pack — no outside relationships. No drug addictions including weed. Don't try to change me. Comfortable with firearms and rural conservative lifestyle. Bisexuality required, not preferred.



REACH OUT

If something in you is saying yes, tell me about yourself. Not a resume — the real you. What drives you. What kind of pet you are when you're fully yourself. Tell me the thing that lives in the deepest part of you that you've never felt safe sharing. Not an audition — I want to know if what runs deepest in you speaks the same language as what runs deepest in me.

Reddit DMs or mail. If I don't respond immediately, I'm at work with no notifications on. Be patient. I'm worth the wait, and so are you.

I'd rather wait for the right pet than settle for close enough. But when the right one shows up, I move with certainty.

30 [M4F] #North Carolina / Online First — Country bar redneck who builds AI systems looking for his alpha pet to help build a pack. Online only to start.