Change is Good

To all my fellow overly empathetic folks (👀 you know who you are), please take a moment to read this.

I know it can be hard to let go of the hope that things could have been better. Maybe you still believe things can be different. If you had only said the right words, listened more, read their minds, etc. But before you self-abandon again, please do me a favor and take the moment to ask yourself this:

¿Regardless of why they left or pushed me away, was the relationship healthy and safe for me?

Here's the thing... We shouldn’t want the same relationship back. It didn't work in the first place. Neither should the other person, to be honest 🤷🏽‍♀️.

If there is still love between you, if there is hope for a better relationship in the future, both people will seek positive change within themselves first.

Additionally, without a mutual understanding that things will be different because of how people carry themselves going forward, it is not safe to assume jumping back into the same relationship will result in a different outcome. If only one person is aware and accepting of that, then it's not mutual.

Change is good 🦋