to poop or not to poop

my options everyday are skip your medication and be severely constipated and bloated, or take your medication and have diarrhea 8 times a day which prevents you from going out or getting any tasks done. WHY CANT I EVER HAVE PEACE💔I need to clean my house and everytime I stand to get up I have to run to the toilet but if I was backed up I know I'd be too lethargic to clean so I'm in a pickle either way. people who have normal semi soft stool everyday have no idea how good they have it... I'd do anything for a day of normal bowel movements so I can actually be productive.