He has vows written, but I'm waiting for the proposal

I (30F) have told my boyfriend (35) more than once that I do not need a grand proposal, I just want the proposal. I don't even care about a big wedding, I just want the wedding. But HE says that doing a big proposal and a big wedding are important to him, so now I just have to twiddle my thumbs until he actually figures out when and how he wants to propose? I know he thinks it's romantic, but I find it extremely frustrating.

Relationship timeline

November 2024: Started dating. I told him marriage and kids were a dealbreaker immediately.

May 2025: We talk timelines. He wants me to move in with him, I wouldn't do that without firmly establishing that I want to try and get pregnant at the LATEST by age 33, and obviously would like to be married before that. I'm kicking myself now for not also establishing a proposal and wedding deadline.

December 2025: This is a weird one, but I got significantly more religious during the fall of 2025, and by the end of December I changed my sexual boundaries. He was not a fan of this and I was pretty convinced he would break up with me over it, but within 24 hours he was crying and saying that he accepted it and still wanted to marry me.

February/March 2026: At one point while discussing marriage and proposing, I must have just asked him point blank, "When are you going to propose?" because I remember him saying "well, this won't be here," referring to the cane he was using after a surgery. I took that to mean that he was planning to propose after he fully recovered from surgery.

April 2026: During a discussion, he mentioned that he already has the "not-ring" (I have told him I don't like engagement rings. I just want a wedding ring) and that he has already written his wedding vows. I told him that I was honestly still worried that he was going to resent me later for "pushing" him too fast, so I needed him to seriously SERIOUSLY consider that he was absolutely 100% intent on marrying me. I circled back around a month later and he was like "obviously I am. You are going to be my wife."

That's about as sure as it gets without a proposal but now I'm just 🧍

I know a lot of people have been waiting for years and years, but I just DO NOT understand how you can be so certain and then not get down on one knee to be there, especially since I do not care at all about having a romantic proposal. The most romantic proposal in my eyes is prompt and sincere. Like if he was just like "hey dog, let's just start telling people we're engaged," that would be enough for me.

I'm trying to be patient until September before I say something, but tbh I don't know what I would say.