Friendship conflict

Me: im sorry love, im still around people rn and im drained. we’ll talk about it properly later
Friend: if you say so
Me:*Likes message and doesn’t say anything else*
Friend: is there a reason why you just liked my message and didn’t say anything to me?
Me: i informed you i had a lot going on yesterday, i was exhausted and we’d talk later when i had more capacity. “If you say so” felt dismissive.
Friend: i apologize if it sounded dismissive i think i was a bit irritated by the fact that you were replying my messages on snapchat but conveniently forgot to reply to my messages on here after i’d already probed you to ask what the issue was
Friend: did you just plan to not speak to me because you felt like my reply was dismissive?
Me: not exactly. i replied on snapchat because there was nothing emotional to unpack there. It was easier than trying to process my feelings while i was still around people. when you pointed it out yesterday, i realized i hadn’t explicitly said we’d talk later when i had more capacity, so i apologized and clarified that.
Me: of course not. i wanted to call and revisit the conversation when i had more capacity and then let you know i did not appreciate that response.
Friend: okay no worries then
Friend: we’ll speak whenever you’re comfortable enough to or when you have the capacity to
Me: we can speak now. i was trying to wait until i had more capacity but we’ve clearly already unpacked part of it so i’d rather see it through
Friend: i mean my only grievance was the fact that you liked my message and didn’t say anything to me
Friend: if you have anything else you’d like to speak about the floor is yours
Friend: we also don’t need to speak about it if you don’t have the capacity to rn
Friend: you also didn’t have to reply my message if you weren’t in the right capacity to
Friend: i do appreciate your response though
Me: these messages are coming off rude but i’ll keep in mind that tone doesn’t always translate well over text
Me: i hear your grievance but i’m not sure what response you were expecting after “if you say so.” there wasn’t really anything to build on. my intention was always to wait until i had the capacity to call, debrief properly, and tell you i didn’t appreciate that response.
Friend: lol what exactly is coming off rude to you?
Friend: yh im very good now once you explained your reasoning that’s why i said that was my only grievance and if you had something else you wanted to speak about you had the floor
Friend: i really would like to know
Me: i felt like your irritation got in the way of your empathy especially when it wasn’t intentional. if you’d simply replied with, “no worries, whenever you’re ready to talk, we’ll unpack it,” that would’ve shown me a lot more grace. i know i would’ve extended you that same grace if the roles were reversed.
Me: look at these texts
Me: “the floor is yours and you didn’t have to reply”
Me: that is very curt
Me: i’m very much aware it’s a two way conversation
Me: your apology started with an “if”
Me: those things come off very abrupt
Friend: the floor is yours is formal if anything and i am pretty formal during confrontations imo the conversation started because i had an issue with you not replying to my message once that had been sorted out there was no need for the conversation to continue in that regards and that’s why i said that
Friend: and me saying you didn’t have to reply was because you kept speaking about you having capacity for the conversation i wouldn’t want you to feel pressured to respond to me
Friend: i don’t know why that would come off as rude but like you said tone does play a factor over text
Friend: i did apologize for my response but as you’ve stated in later messages i said “if” so that must’ve downplayed the impact of said apology
Friend: but to reiterate i do apologize that my message was dismissive
Me: i appreciate you clarifying your intentions. i also want to apologize again for the irritation you experienced yesterday. that was never my intention.
Friend: it’s fine tbh you were the one that was upset it’s your choice wether you’d want to express that or not
Me: like i said, i wanted to express it at my own pace given everything that transpired between yesterday and today but it’s been addressed now. i appreciate the understanding we’ve reached.