yellow flags on first date
went out with a girl, super cute and there was definitely a vibe. We ended up talking all night, playing pool, and grabbing a bite.
However… there were some yellow flags:
1- she said she would drink and drive when she lived in LA (when going out) I’m sorry, what?!
2- post-3 drinks, she made a racist remark saying she didn’t questioned how POC could afford to live in a luxury building (she did catch herself and say that was f’d up and I was like yeah that was a racist opinion)
3- she drank 3 beers while I didn’t drink at all…. And was pretty tipsy at the end of the date. She did ask if that was ok to drink at the beg of the date and I said yes
4- she would go out in public to hang on the beach in LA during covid even when it was illegal and get ticketed
I know this makes her sound horrible but we did have a vibe on this date. I feel like so rarely so I meet someone and actually feel a spark. Should I proceed with caution? Run far away? Help.
Edit: Thank you for all making me see how delulu I was being. Single tear (but she was so hot!!!). It also helped me realize I need to take into consideration what my values are and to take responsibility for accepting peoples shitty behavior. Tyyy
Posted Jul 10, 2026, 5:59 PM UTC