Dating younger transgender men is pretty heartbreaking

I'm 25 now and I've dated maybe 7 or 8 people, including 3 trans guys and one person who apparently wasn't transgender but was taking estrogen. I move around a lot and I guess at some age I fell into the whole bisexual thing. I never considered myself queer but have always hung around that community because the people were often very quick to accept me or to fuck me.

Trans guys posses this dual quality where they often exhibit features of BPD and narcissism but without a grandiose personality. They tend to be nonchalant, creative, conscientious. When you dig deep in a conversation, you'll find that they tend to hold deeply conservative views which they themselves are not aware of.

The heartbreaking thing to me is that many of them come from marginalized backgrounds, divorced households or toxic communities. It's kind of a cliche to say that traumatized people turn to being transgender as an escape or a protection. It's also a cliche to mention that many of them have traits of autism or, as I like to say, German-mindedness. I've written articles for my school newspaper arguing that trans people should be legitimized. That their existence is more than a coping mechanism and that they have an important social role. I did all of this knowing that the catty editors will call me a performative male behind my back and whatever other bullshit the algorithm throws at people that don't read. But it wasn't worth it. I tanked my reputation for nothing.

I really think that we might be making a huge mistake here. Like we're pigeonholing people from a particular psychological or socioeconomic group and relegating them to a third gender. It's so dreadfully sad. And to think that we were so close to building new gender norms. I can't tell you how much I loved some of the troubled people I've dated. To think that a single person is all it would have taken to save them from a life of testosterone-fulled hypersexuality. It's going to be decades before the West and its medical institutions learn the value of empathy again.