Starting to make sense

About a year ago my wife had an affair. We worked through it and things are going generally well, but now she’s showing all signs of Peri/menopause: the night sweats, wanting nothing to do with me, rage, mood swings, etc.

How do people do this? All things aside it’s just miserable to live with someone who’s constantly on edge, complaining, yet telling you it’s not your fault and there’s nothing you can do. If I can’t do anything to help her not be miserable, am I just supposed to sit tight and hope it gets better? She did say she’s going to have bloodwork done and check her hormone levels at her next appt, but it’s ALOT. I know she didn’t choose this, but I feel like on some level she can choose kindness towards me?