ERP helps you learn to be yourself

Okay so I'm very new to doing ERP but something just clicked for me and I wanted to share.

The goal of ERP and rocd treatment is not to help you make your current relationship work out. It's to help you truly be yourself. You'll find out if the relationship can survive that.

I'm always so so afraid about it not working out. A high amount of fear and expecation, wanting to find "the one." So I mentally try to push the negative feelings and thoughts I'm having about my bf down, which backfires.

So now I'm intentionallly accepting the thoughts and allowing the discomfort to be heard. It's interesting how the relief is sometimes instant with this, even if momentary and I have to keep doing it. Because my body expects me to push back and I'm not. I'm allowing myself to be negative, and while that feels wrong, its like my body just needs me to let that happen before it can move on?

So here's to working through it and a way to be truly ourselves, where we can make relationship decisions in line with who we are and want to be.