Am I being unreasonable?

Hello, I wanted to know if Im being too unreasonable…I want cunnilingus so badly performed by my partner, however he refuses to do it since I cannot give him blowjobs. The reason I can’t is due to trauma, trust I have tried to do it for him but it always ends up in crying/dissociative state. I want to please him but I can’t in that way..is it so bad I want oral too? He says it like “well if Im not getting any neither are you”… but hes had no link of trauma with that. He’s not embarrassed either I tried talking to him about it and didn’t get very far… i just would like to know if you think hes right or me and any advice would be greatly appreciated!