Still Acting Weird At 27

I still haven't found the secret sauce to just behave normally around someone I find attractive. Like I can now smile and not stutter when I talk to my crush (for lack of a better term, cringe and juvenile but w/e) but I still feel like I don't act normally like I'll either be too smiley or I'll be too goofy or I'll be too quiet. And this'll happen in like the span of an hour so it just makes me come off as weird. Which yeah no shit, but I want to seem approachable and friendly not awkward.

How have you guys developed your social abilities? Just hangout with people more? NA has helped me with public speaking. Being homeless helped me approach people. Sales helped me smile all the time even when I don't want to. You'd think this would be a recipe for success with ladies I actually like, but nope still a shy lil school girl in a grown ass man's body when I like someone.

Ugh.