my boyfriend didn’t accompany me to the hospital

i (18f) had an abortion a month and a half ago and it’s not been going well. i phoned the midwife today and she strongly urged me to go to the hospital.

i told my boyfriend (18m) and asked him to meet me there and accompany me through A&E (my dad drove me there). he said he would and that he was getting his things ready to leave, but then said he had to wait a bit before leaving because he was dizzy. he said he was so dizzy he couldn’t see which obviously meant he couldn’t drive to the hospital.

i recommended he ask someone else to drive him or if he’d like my dad to pick him up, but he declined both.

he declined the first option because ‘they would just say no’. he declined the second option because he was upset that my dad would ‘fall out with him’. my dad said this because boyfriend wasn’t coming to the hospital, not because he got me pregnant in the first place.

my dad had to leave the hospital eventually and i’ve now been here for 4 hours basically alone, aside from the other patients and the staff.

i’ve been giving my boyfriend updates occasionally, like moving waiting room and seeing the doctor, but other than that we haven’t spoken much.

i saw his location on snap maps and he wasn’t home. he’s at a pub.

‘too dizzy’. he just doesn’t want the responsibility of knowing he both got me pregnant, and didn’t accompany me to the hospital.

i’m still sat here waiting for pain medication and for my dad to come and pick me up, because my boyfriend won’t.

he isn’t usually like this, i think he has a fear of hospitals, it’s happened before where i’ve been in hospital and he hasn’t visited and found every excuse not to.

he’s usually lovely to me and he was very supportive when i had the abortion and whenever i have concerns of a similar nature.