I (30F) absolutely love my boyfriend(32M), but it concerns me so much that he spends most of his money on his family that he is broke all the time. Anyone been in a similar situation?
We might get married soon, but I am pretty concerned about this situation. I also financially support my family, but that never leaves me broke, on the other hand he is not able to save anything, go anywhere, and his reason is that he takes care of his family. I don’t know how much he spends on them exactly, but he makes pretty good money, we both used to make around the same amount couple of months ago, now I make 40% more than him, but even back then I could save enough and spend money on travel. In fact I paid for almost all the expenses for the last few trips we took (no he didn’t ask me to do that, I initiated it). Now I am kinda getting pissed off, I am someone who have always dreamt of travelling with my partner, but because of his financial constraints I’m not able to. He is otherwise an amazing boyfriend. Because I also support my family financially, I know even then you will have money left to do the things you want, but he is actually broke, this is making me wonder if his family is taking advantage of him, if they are not at all concerned about his financial wellbeing.
Posted Jul 10, 2026, 7:32 PM UTC