The obsession with getting "closure" after a breakup is just a massive excuse to drag out the drama

Spent like a month trying to talk to my ex for one final chat just to part on good terms because I thought it was the right thing to do. Only to realize how utterly pointless it was. I was just doing it to make myself feel better, and it didn't fix a single thing. It just gave them more room to mess with my head.

Life isn't a movie with a neat script at the end, and breakups sometimes are just ugly, and no matter how hard you try to "not have hard feelings ", walking away without looking back might be the healthiest and proper way out most of the time. Otherwise, you get dragged into the same territory you wanted to get away from or just deplete yourself emotionally even more.

Chasing some closure is paradoxically never reaching a closure and peace with oneself. Looking back, I probably learned it the hard away but I learned.