Forever in the wrong

I am sick of forever being shouted at/ sworn out because my wife cannot manage her emotions and is always annoyed at something.

Today our daughter woke up and wanted her mumma. I was trying to convince her to go downstairs with me but she was adamant and kept saying “no mummy, I want mumma” so I tried hard to keep her quiet and still (she’s 2 btw) but she wasn’t having it. I knew if I picked her up, she’d kick off and wake up my wife anyways. Wife woke up very annoyed and told me to fuck off as I never let her sleep in (she never gets up with our daughter and I do most of the day to day care etc and she always naps. I then managed to get daughter out and we got downstairs and wife came down after.

Fast forward to just now. Wife is napping on the sofa. I am trying to keep daughter off her so she can sleep. Outside isn’t best right now as it’s 29c and pure sunshine so a bit of a hazard for a 2 year old and she gets hot very quick. She’s playing and watching tv, I’ve tried to keep her off the wife several times but whilst making lunch she’s snuggled in next to her. Then climbed back down to play. Whilst she’s playing the wife has jumped up and told me to fuck off and she’s not happy because she can’t sleep in peace and is going upstairs to nap. She then tells our daughter to fuck off when she said “mumma” and went to the door to follow her.

This is a constant occurrence of me always getting the verbal abuse and it isn’t unusual our daughter gets it’s too. Our relationship is on a break right now and it feels like since that, she’s just not even bothering to hold back and I’m sick of constantly having to console our daughter because her other mum can’t grow up and watch how she speaks to us.