Not sure what to do here

I’ve always had a rocky relationship with my tone deaf mom, I don’t think I’d label her as abusive, more like she’s tone deaf and insensitive, constantly says and does things that pizz me off, and she’s that baby boomer that never has the ego to apologize or talk about her feelings, in short we don’t speak each other’s language.

After I had my baby I haven’t been back to my hometown, but recently I need to, to get documents for my baby. Anyway my mom did another super tone deaf thing that upset me, so I wrote her a super long message about how she hurt me and I need space and distance from her. Being the tone deaf person she is, instead of responding she just kept calling me or sending me messages to talk about irrelevant things, all of which I ignored. I also left the family chat group because she started sending the messages there.

We always had a strange dynamic, but I never really officially considered cutting her out of my life entirely. Not sure what to do now, but I do know I don’t wanna talk to her for the sake of my mental health.

Also I don’t know if I should allow her to see my baby when I return to my hometown. On one hand I don’t want to deal with my mom, on the other hand I’m afraid my baby will grow up to resent me because I didn’t let her meet grandma. I feel like it should be my daughter’s own choice whether she wants to see grandma or not, but she’s a baby now. guess I’m just venting and looking for support as I’m new to this ?