I don't feel accepted by my boyfriend's friend group. What should I do?
I'm in a dilemma and could really use some advice. I'm a shy, introverted guy, and I've been dating a very extroverted guy for a few months now. He has a big group of gay friends that he's very close to, and we regularly go out with them.
The issue is that I feel like a large portion of them haven't liked me since the first time we met. I've genuinely tried to socialize and connect with them, but some of them won't even make eye contact with me. They cut me off or ignore me whenever I try to talk to them. As a result, I feel excluded and unhappy every time we hang out.
I tried talking to my boyfriend about how I've been feeling, but I felt like he dismissed my concerns. He said that I don't know them well enough yet and that he "doesn't f*** with bad people." I understand that they're important to him, and the last thing I want is to drive a wedge between him and his friends. At the same time, these interactions have become emotionally draining, and I'm starting to dread spending time with them.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Am I reading too much into this, or should I trust my instincts?
Posted Jul 11, 2026, 1:22 PM UTC