My story

My wife and I have been happily married for 23 years. We have three kids under 12.
8 year ago life got busy at work and with 2 twins at home, we communicated poorly and lost connection for 8-12 months.
Before our third was born we talked about how we’d come apart and how I’d been too committed to work and had left her alone a bit. Once our third was born we discussed how we wanted to move from USA to Canada where I was from as weren’t happy in us. Once we moved to Canada sex disappeared.
Like completely. She also started to talk to me horribly. I’d say this lasted a few years and on multiple occasions I tried to addess this (lack of sex and general relationship)
I was met w a stone wall ( I don’t know or don’t bring this up to me)
My wife was 38-42)
I since asked what do you want our life to be like (she said move to Aus where she’s from) we didn’t and it’s been two years in Aus by her fam and friends
I’m happy here . She’s very happy and has slowly over last 2 year moved to talking to me nicely
No sex
It’s now been 5 years since we had sex and basically 7 years.
I’ve asked, I’m romantic, engaged. She has zero interest.
I recently met a woman at work in the San situationwho wants to have an affair and frankly after trying all the recommended (talking, dating, romance. Suggested therapy only to be told “I don’t want therapy”, I’m struggling w no sex or intimacy “ I don’t know. Just be an adult about it”
I’m realistacy going to sleep with mg ex coworker and frankly I don’t feel bad about it at all…