34 [M4F] #London - Switch leaning Gentle/Soft Dom leaning Switch seeking...

I'm looking for something long term, ideally a relationship, I should say upfront, I'm monogamous, not looking for ENM/poly, that's just a personal preference... I'm a greedy person and would want you all to myself, and likewise would hope you feel the same!

The day to day stuff...

I'm 34, white, 6ft, slim build (approx. 80kg), blue eyes, brown hair and generally clean shaven. An INFJ and a Taurus (for anyone into those things), an ambivert, extroverted introvert and I'm left-handed, left-footed, and generally left-leaning politically. Work wise, I'm a Tech professional and hopefully a relatively stable career, oh and I'm living alone in my own place in London.

I'm a bit geeky, I play games (PC and Switch 2, though not too heavily) and some board games, and I geek out on things like Doctor Who, Marvel, Harry Potter, Star Wars, The Boys, sci-fi generally, let's say I'm more than a casual fan, though not hardcore.

My humour ranges from dad jokes to dark humour and I'm generally a happy, playful, chill guy who goods around and is light hearted, but I know when to be serious too.

On the flip side, i'm also a smidgen sporty and like my cardio! I play badminton mostly, plus some football, tennis, and the odd driving range (golf) outing, and I run.. though infrequently.

I cook and bake, more the latter (sweet tooth). I love travelling, culture, food, history (even if I'm useless at remembering the actual history part). I'm not much of a drinker and don't smoke. (neither are a problem if you do, as long as it's in moderation...)

From a love/intimacy perspective... Physical touch and quality time are my two big love languages, honestly except gift-giving, they're all good. I'd call myself thoughtful, caring, high EQ? I'll check in by text through the day, can do voice notes, but generally prefer texting to calling. I'm very much one to give affection as much as receiving it.

There's plenty more layers to me, but this is already turning into a wall of text :')

Kink/NSFW stuff...

I'm a switch but lean gentle/soft Dom, but can be open to other dynamics. I'm generally quite fluid to my partners needs and can get into that headspace. I'm caring (both vanilla and non-vanilla), understanding and want to work on both a physical and mental level, whether you're into praises, punishments for bratty/misbehaviour, sweet pillow princess time, something a little rougher and a mix of things in-between, also good with aftercare, cuddles, etc.

When I'm leading... Praise, teasing, taking control if you're bratty, service, sensation play, collars, blindfolds, physically handling you. I don't mind a bit of light degradation — more dirty talk than anything harsh, and I'm all for roleplay. Generally, as long as it's not too extreme, I'm game for anything!

On the switchy side, it really depends on what you're into! I can flex to most of it, and can take things a bit rougher too. I'm open to receiving some pain, whether that's spanking, slapping, scratching are all fine... Chastity is something I'm open to, just nothing extreme...

I'm comfortable and happy with toys, Into restraints, and I'm genuinely open to exploring pretty much anything within that.

Aftercare matters a lot to me, so expect cuddles, kissing, maybe running a hot bath, grabbing water or food, towels, hair stroking, calming down together, pillow talk. I'm all in on this bit, whichever side of it I'm on... and happy to accommodate, it's equally, if not more important than the main event...

For the size queens and the curious, to help filter... I'm 6.5–7", decent girth and uncut.

I will say, I'm happy to have a further conversation here and discuss things, the key thing is we're both understood, heard and on the same wave-length.

Who I'm seeking...

I'd say I'm looking for someone 25+, preference to those with a good sense of humour, open-mindedness, and emotional maturity are good to haves! I've no preference on how experienced you are with any of this, I'd rather find someone keen to open up, explore, and have fun. Energy and enthusiasm over expertise, any and every time.

Body-wise, anywhere from slim to curvy within a healthy-ish range is good... Beyond that, race, religion, diet, all open. I do lean toward wanting to stay child-free, though I'm not ruling kids out entirely, so worth knowing where you stand too.

I would certainly prefer someone London based, or as close as possible. But don't mind some distance, that said, anything long term, I'd be keen to close that gap...

If any of this has caught your interest, or you're just curious, message me! I'm pretty much an open book and happy to chat.