AITAH for not wanting my parents to come to my wedding?
My wife 24M and I 24M are getting married in a couple weeks. We will call my wife K just to keep up with names. For context my wife is here on a student visa. She is from Australia and is in architecture. My mother has never really been supportive of me being with her. We have been together for six years now. My mom has always made remarks about her. Things like her skin tone (she is white and I am black) so you could imagine how that dynamic is in a black household especially considering my mother is a late stage alcoholic. She even told me the cruise they have planned for the family that I should cheat on my wife. Clearly not respecting boundaries. My father recently called and immediately said “green card wedding” and “you’re going to look back and realize this is green card wedding, K found herself a young man who was successful, loving, and gullible this is a green card wedding.” Like he knows about our relationship more than we do. My wife and I understood how it looks, however my wife has sponsors from her job, in Australia it is more subsidized to go to university. So the only gain she has being with me in all honesty is for our relationship. I told my wife and she was genuinely hurt. Her and I assumed my father was the one out of my parents that saw her for her, and not just someone looking for papers. After this I told my wife I really didn’t want my parents to go to our wedding. I am just mentally exhausted from them at this point in my life. I understand I am on the younger side and from an outside perspective I get it, but my parents seen me lose motivation for life and battle depression and my wife brought me up from that. I now have a good career in the mortgage industry. I am currently building my med supply business and she supported me through it all. I am in all honesty just trying to protect my wife. So AITAH?
Posted Jul 11, 2026, 1:29 PM UTC