People who AVOID the only Solution to their problems.

Yes, I’m aware that these people have drilled down the behavior that causes their problems into their identity.

For example, someone could say “oh I wanna learn how to drive a manual car like an automatic WITHOUT having to switch gears.” I mean… it’s literally a manual, you have to switch gears manually you dolt.

No, you won’t lose your actual identity if you learn a new skill that makes you better. Attach yourself to results, not to behaviors.