How do you guys feel about over sexualization/fetishization of asian men in the gay community?

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I (16M) i'm an asian male living in canada, hi , i've experienced my fair share of people believing I am innocent, babying me, or just not believing i'm as competent as my white counterparts. I live in a very , very white town. So maybe that plays a part

Then comes the sexualization, especially from the gay male community. I am gay myself, and I have no problem with gay white people, but they tend to infantilize us and treat us like our race is inherently sexual, i'm sick of it. Everywhere I go at school i'm called slurs and believed to be innocent or not as competent. Everywhere I go online (sometimes at school) my race is sexualized and I'm treated like some foreign sex toy.

This seems like a very obvious question, " it's bad, duh." But i've had some older asians on the say that its better than slurs or comparing their situations, then, ive had other gaysians say its not a big deal. And it's honestly made me feel like maybe I shouldn't complain, maybe this is the better way. But, i don't think it's selfish to want neither.