Finally had enough after a month long situationship...

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So, I've been "seeing" someone for a month at this point, started off good, hungout a lot, had some amazing conversations, really felt connected, but suddenly like a week and a half in, went down to seeing them once a week after rescheduling day of or even hours after the plans were supposed to transpire, was told "I'm just working through stuff with my therapist but I do really like you". When we would finally see each other, even though I may have only heard from her once or twice prior to seeing her, she'd make sure to respond to damn near every text or Snapchat she got while we were doing whatever. Also, there was absolutely no physical aspect aside from a hug at the end, which I'm not saying is everything, but I am a physical touch and physical affection person, I gave it a month to see if thered be any changes, any effort on her part, several discussions about how we were feeling and me asking for improvements and her reassuring me she can do it, to sending this text tonight: "If I am being honest, it kinda feels like theres only surface level compatibility here, I'm a big communicator, of which I have received very little from you, and very little consistency which kind of messes with my head when I get like, a singular text from you once every couple days, fighting to just hangout, never being able to plan anything kind of sucks too, not sure a one sided dynamic is what I'm looking for, I was holding out hope things would change but it's only breaking down further at this point. If you don't foresee things genuinely shifting I think it may be worthwhile to just call this off before I get more attached" Did this perfectly capture how I felt? No but shit atleast I'm not putting in 95% effort to get .01% effort in return.. idk it hasn't really settled, am I being dramatic or too much? Me 25NB(amab) them/her 24GF(afab)

Posted Jul 11, 2026, 1:33 PM UTC

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