I hate feeling unfeminine due to my body

I have ups and downs with my body image, sometimes I love how I look, but other days I feel disgusting. I’m 5’7, not that tall but still above the average. I have always been on the slimmer side but still definitely a healthy weight, but it’s my body fat distribution that’s the problem.
I store more body fat in my chest than my lower half, not significantly but It’s obviously there. I work out for a toned butt and thighs and I am seeing results, my self esteem boosts a little, until I see the women with extremely voluptuous lower halves, juicy thighs and bum - any man’s dream. I immediately just feel inadequate knowing I got the short end of the stick, being seen as less desirable in the eyes of current society.
Then there’s the thing that high estrogen levels are the cause of more fat in the legs and butt, an inherently feminine trait and a fertility signal that I just lack. I feel like a total failure even though I can’t control it.